Walter was a huge man standing 6'6 with hands that would swallow the small foam cups of coffee he consumed through the halls of a 41 patient Psych ward in south central Kansas. Other than my father he was the the most influential man in my life.
He was a Holdeman Mennonite and had been excommunicated from his home church for choosing to work in the mental health field. This was in direct opposition to the the church doctrine which believes in blind faith. They believe that man's fall was when he began to use his mind and make sense of all that is the Grace of God and not for us to question.
Walter was of that world and not of that world. He liked good Scotch and Kool cigarettes and more coffee please! Suffice it to say he liked and practiced almost all that went against his church and it cost him in many ways. What he got in return was the total respect of his peers and patients by teaching folks to talk about the here and now. He was a master at observing patients as they conducted their lives and relationships on the milieu and feeding that back to the patient in a down to earth way that was Walter.
The therapy was based on the here and now and it strikes me that most of us could benefit from the here and now as we often feel guilt over the past and fret the future..... Today I dropped a crappie bed in to the lake and installed a solar light on my garage and later realized how happy those two simple things had made me.....for the moment!
Walter died over 10 years ago and I miss him! I Loved talking to him, listening to him, watching him and admiring the size of his his brave character! David Brooks refers to this human connection and love as inter-penetration. I wish for all a Walter or two in your life and a few spaces of time every day of "moments."
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ReplyDeletekatizatSeptember 24, 2011 4:31 PM
DeleteMoments like when you DEMANDED I pay for your internet access so you can continue to disrespect me and our marriage, pay your phone bills so you can continue to contact your “friends” for long phone sex sessions (while you degrade them)...all the while whining "I don't want to lose our marriage, but I don't have time to get treatment or attend marriage counselling".
"Moments" like when you saw I had had ENOUGH of your excuses, lies and abuse and your brothers had finally taken you down as they promised (Just what kind of brothers take such delight in destroying their own blood? What kind of Family sits back and watches silently? What kind of Father, your Father is so weak he says and does nothing?)and so you and your Family devise a fraud to steal my Mother's and my equity from the property WE paid for, WE improved, WE put OUR finances into so "You" Kevin Jay Kirkpatrick on Facebook @kevjkirkpatrick on Twitter Kevin Kirkpatrick "Social Media Student" wouldn't lose your "Legacy"? And you all; you and your parents and brothers, do this behind our backs by demanding only I pay the entire Note...not you, you paid nothing and they asked nothing of you,", don't let me in on this fraud until 8 days after YOU publish the Foreclosure Notice!
What kind of MAN do you think Walter would think you are? How embarrassed he would be that you should USE him just like you use everyone else to further your frauds to the world. How disgusted that you would invoke his teachings for your sick and deviant means.
TRUTH: You haven't worked in over two years, you haven't paid child support for your youngest child in over 20 years $46k+ in arrears, you stole from your former business partners and clients, you have emotionally, mentally, financially and even physically abused every one of your former wives and this soon to be EX with wanton disregard. You now live off your daughters, sleep on their couches and charm new unsuspecting female victims in Chicago with your lies of wealth, business ownership, success and "poor pitiful misunderstood and mistreated Kevy" so you can continue your living off the kindnesses of others. You have no character no conscience!
You are NEVER going to be "worthy" of having Walter waste his teachings on you who is incapable of learning.
Let's set the record straight:
ReplyDeleteYOU did not "FOUND" OGOLOGO, you usurped it as "yours"
YOU are not a "Partner", you destroyed it, bled it, abused it
YOU had nothing to do with the LOGO creation, again you usurp the design I created alone
YOU are only interested in "Social Media" to "socialize" with unwitting naive women and to feed your ego
Never an original idea, thought, or line...just plagiarisms
Wow, taking no responsibility for being with this loser??? All the signs were there. Learn from your mistakes and move on. You're blaming a mentally ill drug addict because YOU made a horrible decision to be with him! You look like an obsessive, bitter, nutjob with no life. Maybe you two belong together. How are the herpes?
Delete"WOW" Make some more excuses for Kevin Jay Kirkpatrick "Jane"(how clever of you to use Smith instead of Doe as your fake surname)!
ReplyDeleteThe comics section was missing from today's paper so Thanks! for providing your inane attempt at humor. You really should make that appointment to have your herpes treated...they must be giving you quite the itch and affecting whatever brain cells you have been spared to date.
Have a nice and less irritatingly itchy day :(o)